What I love: Chocolate, Ajax, Spain, whiskey, my fish Harry and Sally, the song 'Diep in mijn hart' from Tante Leen and Christmas

Gijs Leeksma is relationship expert and the founder of WHMS, because that career as a professional soccer player was unfortunately only in his dreams. Born in Heemstede and grown up in the capital. In the meantime, he has gained a lot of insight into relationships, how it can be done and how it should not be done. He has also finished his training as dating coach.  

“Yes, I have quite a bit of experience. But I look back on every relationship with a smile. Love is so nice, whether it is short or long. Ultimately we strive for that long happy relationship, but for that you have to have that perfect match. I saw for myself that this was not easy, because I had too high demands and often let myself get carried away in simple love. This was why I started reading and talking to people a lot about why people fit together and why they don't. It's not about the perfect match, but about the relationship that best suits you. A world opened up for me and I immediately knew I wanted to do more with this. Then I started studying as a dating coach and developed my own matching theory together with our WHMS psychologists. Nothing is more beautiful than love and it is very nice to be able to realize this for others by means of this concept ”.



What I love: Formule 1, dancing 'till sunrise , Portugal, cooking and my dear friends

Vanessa Smit was born in Amstelveen and after wandering through Amsterdam, Zeeland and Brabant she is back in her beloved capital. Her background in advertising has taught her a lot about the human psyche. Experience expert in the field of relationships, followed various courses in dating coaching & relationship psychology.

“Love is beautiful. Not always easy, certainly not obvious, but if you find it it is so special. In my relationships I have had very nice experiences, but just as many disappointments. After my first meeting with Gijs, I started to delve into the dynamics of relationships. That was a very eye-opening. And I immediately felt a huge motivation to pass this knowledge on to others. I am now a bookcase richer, I've completed two courses and acquired a wealth of knowledge. And a strong urge to show others that that relationship is really there! ”

Onze huispsychologe en -coach



What I love: the smell of the canals (a bit dirty but still nice), my daughter who imitates an adult, Ronald Goedemondt, dancing to a good beat.

Titia has owned a thriving psychology practice since 2004. ( She guides ambitious people in their thirties to establish a solid and honest relationship with themselves and with others. She married Niels just before her fortieth birthday and is the mother of Louisa and Philip and stepson Nika.

Since the foundation of WHMS, Titia has been involved in the background as a psychologist for WHMS clients who want to know their patterns in love.

“When Gijs asked me to use my knowledge of the psychology of love and relationships for his mission to bring nice people together, I immediately thought that was a good idea! I know from experience how a desire for love can be so great that you sometimes almost don't want to feel it. I know the resistance to meet again after every date that "failed". After much trial and error, I now experience love as connecting but also liberating, especially because I am more firmly on my own feet than ever. You are welcome to explore your patterns around love. The more you can relax in yourself by knowing who you are, the easier it is to admit someone else into your life. Find out what's important to you in a relationship. Do you guard your autonomy or is loyalty important to you? Do you have the courage to show your vulnerability in addition to your strength while dating? I would love to talk to you about it! ”



What I love: my feet in the sand, the sunrise and sunset, a beach walk, cooking, evening parties, dancing, As from George Michael and traveling for inspiration and reflection.

Zayra Muller is a coach in the field of personal and professional development. Her fuel for positive energy is to investigate the motives of the human being and discover what really moves you as a person.

"The verb 'connecting' is central in my life. Matching people in love but also in my work as a coach: connecting body and mind.

The Royal Wedding by The Duke and Duchess of Sussex was a historic moment because history was written. Not just for the bi-cultural gathering but especially for the ode to romantic love. I was particularly touched by the impressive speech by Bishop Michael Curry, who spoke about the fiery and passionate power of love. Words that make love and the world more beautiful for me. This ceremony made my romantic heart beat extra hard and made me realize again that love is the highest good. My interest and enthusiasm were strengthened after this moment and so I came in contact with Gijs a year later.

I love to have nice conversations with (diverse) people, looking for the unknown and similarities that always seem to be there. It is precisely the similarities that binds people. By listening carefully and by asking you come together to the most beautiful discoveries.

My approach as a coach is motivating, empathetic and positive with an open mind. As a Master coach I have gained in-depth knowledge from various courses and I use NLP, systemic work and attention training, among other things. More information about my method:”